CHIANG RAI – With the nation mourning over the loss of their beloved late monarch, this is a good time to talk about a topic that’s not often mentioned â€“ grief.Â Itâ€™s a powerful emotion and can be very unhealthy ifitâ€™s repressed and not allowed to be released properly.Â During the first days of the public mourning, people were sobbing openly in the streets.Â The authorities were well prepared, ensuring that medical services were in place to take care of people who were overcome with shock, anxiety and stress over the distressing event.
Says Tania Ho, founder and owner of Museflower Retreat & Spa Chiang Rai, “We need to allow ourselves to express grief.Â Keeping it inside can have negative effects on our mind and body.Â Energetically speaking, when we donâ€™t allow ourselves to express grief properly, we create energy blockages and these blockages may affect our energy level and may even be manifested in some kind of physical diseases in the future.Sometimes people donâ€™t let themselves grieve and bury it inside because sometimes we donâ€™t want to expose our vulnerable sides and donâ€™t want other people to see us cry.Â But itâ€™s healthy to grieve. It is part of the healing process.â€
What are some of the ways people can release grief other than crying? Tania recommends journaling as an effective way to release your feelings.
â€œA journal is different from a diary.Â Whereas a diary is about what weâ€™ve done and things that happened that day, a journal is a safe space where we can be completely honest with our feelings, without being judged by other people. When we journal, we can express our true feelings, record any reflections, insights and realizations. It would be ideal to find a private space when you journal.Â As we write out our feelings, we may cry along. Journaling can help to clarify our thought processes as well.â€
Tania went through her own personal journey with grief when her father suddenly passed away in 2011. She was only 25 year old at the time.It was a huge shock for her family.
â€œBecause my dadâ€™s death was a very traumatic experience for our family, one of my momâ€™s friends arranged a bereavement counseling session for us. It was helpful in the sense because there was a facilitator there to ask how each person in the family was doing, and each person was able to express some of their feelings. However, like many traditional Chinese families, speaking about our feelings or emotions is not something we do. For me, speaking about my grief in a group setting was difficult. Rather than speaking we would just break into tears, because there was no word that could describe the heaviness and the grief in our hearts.
During this period a friend who was a Magnified Healing teacher gave Tania and her family individual healing sessions and asked them to continue to send love to their fatherâ€™s spirit.Â â€œAs this was more of an intimate setting and because she was my friend, my sisters and I were able to share more about our feelings. The energy healing definitely assisted us to feel calmer and at peace with the whole situation.â€
Tania found that focusing on work helped her move forward with her life but at the time she didnâ€™t know she was suffering from repressed grief.Â She had developed eczema and consulted a homeopath who told her it was a symptom of repressed emotions.
â€œThe eczema was showing me that I was still holding onto the grief and anger about my dadâ€™s passing, and a part of me actually wanted to go with him.The homeopath gave me some homeopathic remedy and also flower essence remedies to take. During the consultation sessions, we worked on releasing my emotions as well.Â My eczema did heal eventually, and I myself experienced firsthand the healing power of Flower Essences.
â€œMy father suffered from depression, so I knew that healing the emotions was key to a healthy life. I attended a couple of healing retreats in Chiang Rai and fell in love with this place. That same year, I had the opportunity to join in a venture to build a retreat center in Chiang Rai, and two years later, Museflower Retreat & Spa was born. I wanted to create Museflower to be a comfortable place where people can find help for emotional, mental, and physical stress, just like I did. â€
Tania says the process of healing grief is never easy, and itâ€™s different for everyone. The most important thing is to give yourself some private space. Just allow yourself to cry, to shout, to be angry or to scream if you need.
Various holistic therapies can help heal grief.Â At Museflower Retreat & Spa Chiang Rai, various holistic therapies are available that can help with healing and releasing grief –
Flower Essence Consultationâ€“ Flower essence is a subtle yet powerful form of vibrational remedy. Each flower holds a different message and reflects on an aspect of life that you experiencing at that time. During this consultation, you pick two to three flower essences that will assist your emotional and spiritual journey. Flower essence remedy is especially powerful for healing any emotional blockages.
Crystal balancing with Reiki – Crystal stones, essential oils, sound vibration, and Reiki energy are used on your energy fields to balance your energy.Â It increases the harmony within you and transforms your energy to its highest potentials. The result is a feeling of deep inner peace.
Hado counseling session – Recommended for anyone who wants to have more vitality and energy, any specific health condition or feel out of balance. Originally invented in Austria and later adapted in Japan by Dr. Masaru Emoto, Hado Kaizen (Improvement) Program is a computer program that scans and measures your bio-energetic state, picking up any negative vibrations that are affecting your health, such as negative emotions, toxins or viruses. After that, your personalized Hado water will be made by imprinting the positive vibrations to neutralize any negative vibrations in the energetic body.
Says Tania, â€œI also find it helpful to spend some quiet time in nature. When processing grief or any other types of trauma, itâ€™s a good time to learn how to receive help from other people, and to show our vulnerable sides to our loved ones. Let go of the belief that â€˜I am not good enoughâ€™ and any judgment you may have for yourself. Sometimes we feel that we must pull ourselves together and stay strong. Itâ€™s true that we must move on in our lives. However, do remember to allow yourself to process the feelings in your own way.â€
If you want to help someone to heal from grief, Taniaâ€™s advice is â€œLet them know that you are here for them. Allowing them to feel what they need to feel at that moment without any judgment. Simply hold the intention of love and compassion in your mind. That is already enough.â€
By Minty Green
For more information on holistic emotional healing sessions in Chiang Rai, contact:Â
Museflower Retreat & Spa Chiang Rai, 159/1 Moo 1 Ban Samanmit, Donsila Sub-District, Wiang Chai District, Chiang Rai 57210
Office: +66-(0)52-029-823, +66(0)-93-137-0414